Ah, one of the most common questions among people using the law of attraction. One that’s usually accompanied by other questions such as,
Why isn’t it working? Why am I not manifesting what I want? How long will it take?
If you’ve been trying hard to manifest and attract with the law of attraction but aren’t experiencing the success and results that you want, then this post is written especially for you.
I’ve been where you are, the days and nights of visualizing, affirming, imagining and trying virtually every LOA technique out there yet having nothing to show for it.
I remember the frustration of those days very vividly. In fact, the disappointment and confusion I felt at the time were some of the worst experiences I ever had in my life.
Indeed, the whole experience was so horrible that it almost caused me to give up on the law of attraction for good.
It was only through years of experimentation, research, and sheer perseverance that I was able to figure out how to make the LOA work.
And in this post, I will share with you exactly what I discovered so that you too can start manifesting like a master.
If you’re tired of being disappointed and getting your hopes up for nothing, then read on. Put these tips into practice and the results you get with the law of attraction will change forever.
The Law of Attraction Works
If you’ve ever tried to attract anything without success then you’re probably already having some doubts as to whether or not the law of attraction is real.
So, the first thing I want to do is address that. Before we proceed, let me reassure you, the law of attraction does indeed work.
Utilized properly, it holds the key to a reality and life beyond your wildest dreams.
I’ve seen firsthand, its miraculous effects on my own life, and the lives of those around me.
You see, the law of attraction is simply a term used to describe the effects of our thoughts and emotions over reality beyond the superficial level.
In fact, the law of attraction is actually a very recent term, one that was made popular with the release of the book, ‘the secret’.
But the idea behind the term has been around for a very long time, since the beginning of civilization.
The act of manifesting and attracting through one’s thoughts has been expressed, practiced, and cultivated for centuries by people from different cultures, religions, and traditions.
The great men and women throughout history all understood that the secret to true power, abundance, and mastery over life lied within their minds.
Here’s why it isn’t working for you
So why aren’t you getting the results that you want?
What the gurus and popular LOA advice don’t usually tell you about this law of attraction stuff is that there are certain actions and mistakes that can render any attempts at manifestation completely useless.
It doesn’t matter whether these mistakes are committed intentionally or not.
You can visualize, recite affirmations and think positive all day long but as long as you’re making one of these mistakes, it’s unlikely that you’ll attract what you want.
On the flip side, avoid these mistakes and the majority of the battle is won. Attracting your desires will pretty much happen on its own.
The effects of any technique you use to manifest afterward will be significantly enhanced.
Your experience with manifestation will change from feeling like an uphill battle to feeling as if the entire universe exists just to support you.
So without further ado, here are the mistakes that you need to avoid.
Too much attachment: You want it too badly
This is the number one and biggest mistake that people commonly make when attempting to manifest anything at all. Getting too attached and wanting it too badly.
When you get too emotionally attached to the thing you want to attract, you’ll inevitably think thoughts and act in a manner that pushes it away from you.
It sounds quite ironic, but most of the time, that’s just the way it is with the law of attraction and even life itself.
I have screwed up many of my manifestation attempts simply because I let my desires get the better of me and got too attached to the outcome.
Now, there’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting something, after all, that’s the whole reason you’re trying to attract it in the first place.
However, let that desire get out of hand and it’ll literally burn away the positive effects of any positive thoughts and intents that you may have.
In the end, wanting something badly will only attract situations where you’ll want it even more.
Don’t Obsess: Think less about whatever you want
Think about it, if you already have what you want, would you obsess over it endlessly?
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t think about whatever you want at all, it’s only natural to have thoughts about it from time to time.
Think about what you want when necessary, like when you’re working towards it, performing manifestation techniques, or when you really can’t help it.
But beyond that, try to avoid thinking of the subject altogether and focus your mind on what you’re doing in the present moment.
Don’t talk about it with other people
Another thing, don’t talk about it more than necessary, with anyone, whether they be your close friends, family members or romantic partner.
There’s a saying, the more you talk about your goals, the less likely you are to accomplish them.
With the law of attraction, it works pretty much the same way.
Trust me, the less you talk about what you want to attract, the faster and more easily you’ll be able to attract it.
There are times when talking about it is unavoidable however so when that happens don’t worry about it. As long as you don’t constantly bring up the subject it’s fine.
I’ll give you an example from my own experiences.
A couple of years back, I manifested a girl into my life that fitted all my criteria for a romantic partner.
Things were going pretty well and we were getting much closer, going on dates and all that stuff.
At first, I was ecstatic and couldn’t believe how lucky I was. I’d talk to my friends about her endlessly, I’d think about her all day and night.
What I didn’t realize was that in my excitement and obsession, my desire to be with her started to get out of control.
The idea that I may not get what I want crept silently into the back of my mind.
Next thing you know, I started to fear, started to feel anxious about the whole situation. What if this doesn’t work out? I thought to myself.
And with that, everything started falling apart, I started acting in ways that were needy and unattractive AND more importantly, I started manifesting situations that would push her further away from my life.
Chains of events started lining up that would push me and the girl further from each other until finally, the relationship completely fell apart.
I’m not telling you this story to scare you but merely to let you know how destructive the emotion of desire and want can be if you let them get out of hand.
And it’s not just wanting too.
Control your Excitement and Expectation
This one’s a bit of a tricky topic, many gurus say it’s good to be excited when it comes to manifesting, that having the expectation that you’ll get what you’re trying to attract is a good thing.
Now this isn’t entirely wrong however as with most things in life, you’ll want to have these emotions in moderation.
Expect too much or get excited too early and it will lead your desire to spiral out of control.
And as that happens, the question of what if I don’t get what I want will start arising in your mind.
What you should do instead
Expect to get what you want but with know that beyond a shadow of a doubt that the universe wants to bring it to you.
Yet at the same time, try your best to be relaxed about the whole thing.
Make an effort to control your excitement, especially when you see any progress.
This way you’ll prevent yourself from getting disappointed from any setbacks along the way, setbacks which really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Remember, All things in balance, all things in moderation.
You’re not trying hard enough or You’re trying TOO hard
Moderation is one of the key factors to mastery over the law of attraction and indeed, life itself.
Therefore, you must make sure you’re putting in enough effort to manifest while making sure that you’re not overdoing it.
Unlike what’s commonly thought, the law of attraction still requires some work, you need to exert a little effort to keep your thoughts and emotions in check.
Simply trying to be positive or daydreaming about the outcome you want from time to time isn’t enough.
While even the most fleeting thoughts have an impact on reality, unless directed by your will and consciousness, their effects will be too negligible to cause any noticeable effects.
By not consciously manifesting, you are letting your mind attract on autopilot. It doesn’t matter whether you’re aware of it or not, the law of attraction is always in action.
Therefore take action and be diligent in your learning and practice of the law of attraction.
There are countless law of attraction techniques out there that you can use, so just pick one or two and commit to it.
On the other hand, don’t try too hard
Try too hard to manifest something and you’ll inevitably end up being too attached to the end goal which will just mess up the whole process.
This is one of the most common reasons why people fail to make the law of attraction work for them, especially among those who are more enthusiastic.
Whatever it is you’re trying to manifest, half the battle is won by simply being able to detach and let go.
If you catch yourself constantly thinking and talking to others about what you want to attract, then that’s the surest sign that you are trying too hard.
Another sign of trying too hard is if you’re constantly trying different manifestation techniques but never committing to any of them.
The best approach is to find a law of attraction technique or exercise that you like in particular and commit to it.
Do it every day, consistently without fail.
Outside of that try your best not to think about what you’re trying to manifest, be as detached as possible, let go as much as you can and just trust the universe to bring it to you.
If you can do just these things, then you’ll never have to worry about trying too hard or not trying hard enough. Everything will balance itself out.
The Ideal State of Mind
The ideal state of mind is to feel as if your desires are already fulfilled, and in that state of mind, you never think about what you want more than necessary.
For example, when you really want a new car, it’ll probably be the only thing on your mind for a while.
But once you’ve actually gotten the car, you won’t be thinking about it all that much, at least that’ll be the case once the novelty wears off.
The subconscious mind is the source of all the major thoughts, actions, and choices that every person has.
It alone determines the way that you live your life and subsequently everything you attract into your reality.
Sadly, the subconscious isn’t very smart and has a tendency to absorb whatever it is exposed to, good or bad.
This means that all negative life experiences can potentially have a lingering effect on your psyche.
With enough repeated exposure, this can cause subconscious blockages to develop.
For example, a person who has faced too much rejection is likely to internalize getting rejected as part of their reality and therefore will keep on attracting situations where they’ll be rejected.
Deep-seated subconscious blockages such as these can thwart even the sincerest attempts at manifesting.
Therefore, it’s something that all of us should look into. Get your subconscious mind in order and the law of attraction will start working for you effortlessly.
How to overcome to subconscious blockage
The good news is that the subconscious can be trained and conditioned to support you in life and everything that you do.
The very same power it has to hinder you can be used instead to support you in attracting your biggest desires and wishes.
Many of the common LOA techniques like affirmations and visualizations already have somewhat of a positive impact on the subconscious.
So, if you’re already using techniques such as these consistently then you’re on the right path.
The only problem is that these techniques only affect the subconscious indirectly, meaning that it can take a fair bit of time to induce any meaningful changes, especially for individuals with blockages that run deeper.
By nature, the subconscious can be very resistant to any form of change. So, it’s much better to work on it directly, here’s how.
Change your self-image
My approach to the law of attraction is always to keep things as smooth as possible, to minimize the amount of mental conflict in your head.
And the best way to do that is by being a person that you can picture having what you want.
Whatever it is you want to attract, are you able to see yourself getting it?
For example, say you are shy but are looking to manifest more friends. In this situation, one of the best things you can do is to take five minutes a day to visualize yourself as a more confident person.
Do it often enough, and your personality will start changing to reflect what you visualize.
Doing this exercise even once a day is enough. Over time it will change how you look at yourself which will go on to completely change what you attract into your life.
Use specialized LOA Programs
I don’t know about you, but I’ve always been skeptical about law of attraction gurus & coaches, that’s why I’ve decided to take the longer route and master the art of manifestation myself.
That being said, there are indeed a couple of programs that work well. Among the many junk products (Books & Courses) there are a few gems that do indeed deliver what they promise to and will significantly improve your manifestation abilities.
Some of these law of attraction programs cover everything that I’ve laid out above and allow you to do them effortlessly on autopilot.
In my experience, programs such as these are also the best way to overcome deep-seated subconscious blockages, as they usually include subconscious reconditioning modules inside them.
This program has allowed me and many people I know to completely reshape our lives by changing literally everything we attract into it.
The Law of Attraction is actually very simple, keep your mind in the right mental state and you’ll get what you want.
If you’ve already been trying hard to manifest then all you need to do is avoid the common pitfalls that I’ve laid out above.
Correct those mistakes and I guarantee you, that you’ll make it work for you and you’ll get what you want sooner than you realize.